What is a honey do list?
After talking to many people and conducting research on “What is a honey do list?” we were surprised at how many definitions we got. Many serious, and the rest a joke. Literally a joke. In this post we will clarify what a honey do list really is to us, why people love it and others hate it, and most importantly how almost every couple has one whether they call it a honey do list or not.
What is a honey do list?
As mentioned we searched the internet, and talked to many people and most definitions fall under the three definitions from Urban dictionary
1) A list of chores assigned by one’s primary companion, sweetheart, and honey pot.
2) a lists of chores and/or errands given to a man by his wife or girlfriend
3) A freaking waste of time. Some broad got the brilliant idea once to get her husband to ruin his whole weekend by giving him a list of tasks to complete on his days off, or else he wouldn’t get sex. Now, it is the bane of the existence of real men from coast to coast.
Now, although we don’t agree with all of these definitions it is pretty funny that, to an extent, in the mind of many people a honey do list is simply a universal joke, but we all know jokes generally come from some common truth or most people wouldn’t have defined a honey do list in that way. When it came to more serious answers most answers were similar to thefreedictionary.com.
Honey-do list: A list or collection of tasks or jobs one has been requested to perform or undertake, especially household duties or jobs, given to a person by their spouse or romantic partner. It is a pun on “honeydew” (a fruit), with “honey” referring to a common term of endearment, and “do” referring to a “to-do list.”
As a side note, it was funny that most sites, when using honey-do list in a sentence,would write from the perspective of a husband complaining about his wife, but this was the only one where it was the other way around.
“All I want to do on the weekends is relax, but my husband always has some honey-do list for me.”
Now we will talk more about why people hate and love honey do lists because this is a big part, but before we do let us define what we mean when we say honey do list on our blog.
Our definition of a honey do list
Before you understand our definition you should understand what the Honey Do List Solutions Blog is about.
“After you say the words “I do” you probably never realize how many to do’ and not to do ’s are going to come after. The Honey Do Solutions is a blog that offers solutions to many of the common “Honey Do’s” through our life stories and researched blog posts.”
You can learn more about our story on our about us page, but now to answer the questions what is a honey do list.
To help you understand our definition let’s first break down the word and define each part.
Honey Do:
Simply put a honey do is a request or suggestion from your significant other that requires action or thought on your part.
Not too different from some of the definitions mentioned above, but we want to make it clear that a honey do list isn’t just a fancy chore list or project even though most people treat it like one
In our mind almost anything that can come after the phrase “Honey” is part of the honey do list whether it is a project, a complaint, a suggestion, or idea, it is “Honey do.”
List:
We are not going to get fancy on this definition so we will just use Merriam Webster’s definition
: a simple series of words or numerals (such as the names of persons or objects)
Now the important thing is how the list or lists are used. There are multiple kinds of honey do lists from shopping lists, to do lists, projects, and our least favorite nag notes. They key is that your honey do list is a way to organize your honey do’s. In fact for some people it isn’t a honey do list it is a honey do calendar, honey do agenda, honey do trello board, or even honey do spreadsheet. Some couples have multiple honey do lists, others just have one, it is really just important to find what works best for you.
Why some people hate the term honey do list and others love it?
Now we don’t want to be haters but it is important to know that some hate this term and consider it one of the most sexist things out there. We want to note in our definition it is not gender specific. Although we believe marriage is between a man and a woman we realize any relationship is going to have honey do’s and need a list.
The other thing is people look at it as a waste of time, or something negative because they generally have to do something for their spouse instead of something they would rather do. We understand this and know that this is just part of life. That is why there are so many honey do list memes. Even though we don’t agree with them they can be pretty funny. Sometimes things on the lists are things we want to do and sometimes they aren’t. Other times they just have to be done at what seems the worst time imaginable. We are big on the belief that life is what you make it. If you see your honey do list as a joke it will be a joke, if you see it as a bad thing, then it will be a bad thing. IF anything we hope you see the honey do list as a tool to get more joy and/or improve your relationship with your significant other.
What is your honey do list?
Now, we have told you what we believe a honey do list is, but let’s be honest you don’t really care what we think a honey do list is. Although we would like to say we are experts on this matter and convince you of our ways we know that is simply not the case. The real question is what do you and your significant other think a honey do list is?
Do you two think it is even the same thing?
Hopefully, you do.
Now we don’t care if you treat it as a joke, or chore list or something more like we do but we want to invite you to make it something more and use it as a tool to strengthen your relationship.
For starters share this post with your significant others and define what a honey do list is? We would also love to hear your thoughts on Facebook.
Next, write down your honey do list. Now you don’t need to write every single one down, but after the words “I do” there are plenty of other do’s and we don’t want to limit you to a to do list, but there is power in creating a written, typed, or digital honey do list.